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Can I undo a connection?

Yes. From the other person's profile page → tap the menu (•••) → "Remove connection." Confirm the action to remove that connection from your own Network view.

When you remove a connection:

  • The connection is removed from your side of Network
  • Your existing DM history is not deleted or unsent
  • Removal does not promise to freeze the other member's relationship record or hide data on both sides
  • The Sparks you originally spent on the connection are NOT refunded (the connection existed; you used the value)

Removal is not a safety barrier. If you need to prevent future contact or profile access, use Block instead. The current DM interface does not offer self-service message deletion, conversation deletion, or unsend.

If you remove a connection and later want to reconnect, you'd send a new connection request (5 Sparks on free tier, free on Premium).

Blocking is the stronger version: removes the connection AND prevents the other person from finding you again on Cofelt. See the blocking article for that path.

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